Do you ever feel like you are stuck in a pattern or loop? You are aware of it, but for some reason, cannot avoid it. Loops can be short-lived, like overthinking a problem to the point of exhaustion and insomnia. Or, they can span years and even decades, or lifetimes, for those who believe in reincarnation. Repeat failed businesses or relationships, can be patterns (they are not always).
When you are stuck in a loop, it’s hard to realise it. Oftentimes, you might need intense bouts of introspection, or the help of others who not only see the pattern you are caught in, but feel safe enough to share this with you. You, on the other hand, have to be prepared to face this reality and take action, if removing yourself from the loop is what you really want. Some people are attached to their loop, and the prospect of stepping outside of it is more terrifying than staying in the familiar pain. We all have free will – there is no judgement here. One of my great patterns I reproduced due to lack of self-awareness was following my mother’s story. She and my father did not see eye to eye early on, and separated while I was a baby. My mother then remarried, got divorced a second time, and is currently on her third (happy) marriage. She had me, her daughter, as only child. Similarly, I got married young and separated when my only daughter was small. Like my mother, I have two marriages under my belt.
As I saw myself reproducing my mother’s story, I felt helpless at changing its course. I did not have the tools I know possess to avert its unfolding, and yet, looking back, I know everything happened for a specific reason.
The different-sized loops have different protocols to address specific scenarios. As we are all unique, our loops are unique and so are the tools to deal with them. Loops can be made of shame, guilt, karmic debt.
If you feel like you could use help stepping out of your loops, whether big or small, send me a DM. I have several tools that can support you in this process. But first, you have to be willing to make the change!
Photo: Kayra Ranai