You want them to be secure? You have a plan for them? If you don’t do your inner work first, all your plans will be futile.
This year has taught us many lessons, as our shadows rose from the depths of our collective and individual consciousnesses. Our plans were shattered, for some, savings and investments as well.
The best thing you can do for your kids (aside from showing what it looks like to be deeply happy, not just superficially so), is to give them space. Nurture them with unconditional love as they find their way and make their mistakes.
When my eighteen-year old daughter was struggling about a life decision earlier this year, I told her that there were no such things as mistakes, and that whatever decision she made, she could always correct course and would learn something in the process (I did express my preference, which she dismissed, lol).
Teaching your kids to find their own truth – which most likely will be different from yours, dear parent – and think for themselves, is the most priceless gift you can give them (even if it’s easier to just buy them stuff).
But of course, you cannot teach this if you have not done the work yourself.
The past week has been all about cutting energy cords, for my private and group clients, as well as for myself. As we cut cords we are freed from outdated relationships, but also with thinking patterns that we have outgrown (and even old versions of ourselves).
When you do the inner work, you are preparing the terrain for beautiful seeds to grow. Expect to be amazed, and for your kids amaze you!
Here are some tips you can implement today, as part of your energetic hygiene routine:
1. Unfollow (or snooze) the whiners, complainers, blamers on your social media feed. Also include those stuck in victim/scarcity mentality.
2. Focus your attention on what brings you more joy, what lights you up, what inspires you, on and offline!
3. Take aligned action. Drop into silence and check in with your body regularly for cues that you are on the right path.
Truth: When you take action from a place of guilt or self-judgement, you are imprinting that energy into the act. By keeping your cup full through proper self-care combined with self-inquiry, you are able to serve from a place of abundance and overflow.
Are you the type of person who won’t hire a cleaning lady because your house is too much of a mess?
Or maybe you finally took that step and scramble to clean up before that person shows up.
I used to be that way with my finances, feeling so much shame that I resisted seeking professional help from an expert to finally shed some clarity and direction.
When you will be ready to do the work, and ask for support in that process, you will know. It will feel right and easeful. Money will not be a problem, because investing in yourself will be a priority (I myself took out a personal loan to work with mentors of my choice, and it was the best decision ever).
Healing is full of ups and downs. Some days will feel like you’re stuck in quicksand. Others will feel Like you’re straight up enlightened. There is no one way, no cookie cutter formula. Ask for guidance, give your mind a break from time to time, and allow the path to unfold.
